They don’t identify as gay, perhaps not even bisexual they may prefer terms like ‘heteroflexible’ or ‘straightish’ interchangeably.” Mel.com explains: “There are also straight men, sometimes the same straight men, who enjoy watching a man or two men penetrate another woman, and become aroused by the woman but also the men’s thrusting and grunting and muscular bodies. Lyon says “Buddy baiting” is simply part of a sub-culture of straight men who enjoy engaging in sexual acts next to other straight men. This “straightish” behavior is what fuels the theme of his Tumblr blog, which often features two (or more) men having sexing with one woman. Yeah, right.Trey Lyon is a blogger behind the Tumblr “Fuck Yeah! Friendly Fire,” which bills itself as the “definitive source for kinky ‘straightish’ porn.” He’s coined the term “buddy baiting” - used to describe the act of straight men jerking off next to a male friend but without touching him. Exactly how “straight” is that? Others will maintain the fiction that they’re only interested in mutual masturbation or in “being serviced”, but in the throes of sex will go down on you and display astounding expertise at it, or beg to be screwed – “just to see what it’s like”. Exactly how “straight” is that? Others have a wife or girlfriend, but clearly get more of a buzz from their “buddy sex” encounters and spend half their lives pursuing these encounters on the down-low. Some of these “straight” guys who just like “dude sex” turn out to like “dude sex” on a weekly or daily basis and haven’t been anywhere near a vagina in years or decades. And when you delve deeper into these guys attitudes and behaviours a very different picture frequently emerges. But having met and had sex with many of these guys I’m willing to bet my own personal survey is way more nuanced. The conclusion is always “guys can have sex with guys and be not even a little bit gay”. These surveys – which seem to come along every month or so – are wonderfully superficial. For his third question, only 1% said “ the sole focus” when masturbating with other men - the other respondents ascribed varying degrees of importance to adult videos during their whack-off sessions. For his second question, most men said that “kissing another guy” and “becoming emotionally involved with a male sex partner,” are the most gay things you can do with another man. He then used Bateworld’s user-created polling questionnaires to ask questions like, “Is mutual masturbation gay?,” “Which of the following actions make a person gay?” and “How important are straight adult videos when jerking off with another dude?”įor his first question, 82% of 565 respondents said that mutual masturbation isn’t gay.
Mustain estimated that 15 to 30% of Bateworld’s users probably identify as straight: This includes some of the site’s bisexuals who might publicly be closeted and identify as straight offline, as well as some of the 5% of users who’d “rather not say” their sexual orientation. Slate writer Kyle Mustain conducted an informal study of nearly 87,000 Bateworld users, a website known as “Facebook for masturbators,” to better understand the site’s self-proclaimed “straight” men who nonetheless enjoy masturbating with other dudes.